okay.. i realised today that people still DO read the crap that i'm typing.. haha.. sooo, to those 'loyal' fans, even if the reason you read this is because you wanna find some sampat news to talk about and STILL refuses to tag (you know who you are.. haha), here's a post for you... all...
anyways.. just wanna blog about misunderstandings.. seemed like the hot topic today.. i have been both guilty of causing them and falling prey to them recently, i mean who hasnt.. but yar.. in my case, it's really bad.. and i really dont want people to fall prey to them anymore.. coz it really can hurt a friendship..
i feel that misunderstandings are often the result of insufficient communications.. when something unhappy happens.. it is always human nature to talk, complain, grumble about it. and most of the time, the story one hears is often one sided.. when that happens, it all boils down to guessing and predicting, which also depends alot upon emotions.. and often, these views aren't accurate.. so, all these will only make the misunderstandings worsen..
i always believe that nothing cannot be cleared as long as both parties are willing to sit down, and trash things out.. i emphasize the words BOTH and WILLING.. there really isnt any point if its one person talking, and the other just listening.. because you need to bring out every single thing you're unhappy with. Only then, can you let the other person understand what you were thinking. and of course like they always say, it takes two to clap.. and if you really want to clear up a misunderstanding, NEVER, never let it drag for too long a time.. because you will get nagged and nagged at by the other party when you DO clear things up =b ok, seriously.. dragging things will only make both parties suffer.. that's assuming both parties are disturbed by the problem.. and there would only be more guessing and waiting.. and more pain.. and it's always when both parties finally agree to talk things out.. that you realise.. it had always been for a stupid cause after all.. and that's when the bond between the both of you strengthens.. because by talking, you actually learn alot about the other party, and more imporrtantly, about yourself..
well.. i'm just glad that i finally cleared up certain matters.. and i also made certain decisions which i hope is correct.. it'll probably be better for both sides.. enough of not being myself..
Oh, and some misunderstandings that i wanna clear about myself.. 1) I DO NOT!!!! I repeat.. I DO NOT!!!! treat friends like dirt! kaoz. thanks lah.. that sort of hurt... 2) I DO NOT ONLY have one particular group of friends.. that's just dumb -.-" 3) I DO NOT get angry just because i dont get to play mahjong.. and it's not the first time i'm saying this..
so yar.. stop fabricating these wierd impression of me already pls.. hais.. i just want things to go back to old times.. when there werent any fake smiles and pointless worrying...
now i only have one other problem, not counting my studies of course.. well.. i just dont want to care abt that anymore i suppose.. even though like almost EVERYONE says i cant.. duhz.. thanks for the support lah.. just really tired of being the one who keeps going back everytime.. being the only one who cares.. not going to clear things up unless the other person is willing to.. because remember, there really isnt any point if its one person talking, and the other just listening.. aiyahhh... just another case of one sided communication.. so yups.. whatever.. stop asking me about it le.. coz i really dont wanna talk abt it okay...
